How to Talk to Your Girlfriend about Alcohol Abuse

How to Talk to Your Girlfriend about Alcohol AbuseDiscussing your concerns about another person’s alcohol abuse can be difficult, especially when the person you wish to confront is your girlfriend. You may worry about her binge drinking, or how she turns to alcohol when she is stressed. Furthermore, you may fear that she will become defensive and that your words will cause an intense fight that dissolves the relationship. However, if you care about her and are genuinely concerned about her alcohol abuse, you owe it to her to speak up. Learn how to discuss the subject and what to share so you can promote long-term recovery.

When Are Alcohol Interventions Necessary?

You must know the various signs that necessitate alcohol interventions, because people become addicts in different ways. Some people have a genetic predisposition toward addiction and become hooked the first time they drink, but other people develop alcoholism very slowly. Unfortunately, alcoholics are the last ones to realize that they have a problem, but the following circumstances often indicate a growing alcohol dependency:

  • People under the age of 21 are much more likely to become quickly addicted to drugs or alcohol
  • A family history of alcohol abuse may indicate a genetic proclivity for addiction, and will be a negative risk factor in terms of learned behavior
  • Underlying psychological issues—such as depression, anxiety, self-esteem deficiency or personality disorders—may be unknowingly self-medicated by drinking
  • Even infrequent binge drinking (drinking to induce significant intoxication) can greatly accelerate the progression of addiction

Alcohol addiction starts with a frequent desire to drink, but in time becomes a psychological and physical compulsion to do so. The line between problem drinking and full-blown addiction is blurry, but the following signs may indicate that your girlfriend has a problem with drinking:

  • Does she associate fun with drinking?
  • Has she lost interest in previously important hobbies or relationships in lieu of drinking?
  • Does she regularly drink more than one drink per day or five per week?
  • Has she ever been dishonest with you or with anyone else about her drinking?
  • Once she starts drinking, is it difficult for her to stop before becoming drunk?

If the answer to any of these questions is “yes,” then you must share your concerns with her.

How to Prepare for an Alcohol Intervention

Alcoholism is a powerful psychological disease, so you must learn how to discuss it with people who struggle with it. Alcoholism frequently causes people to exude denial, justification, blame shifting and dismissal when they are confronted about their drinking, so be prepared for this type of response.

To prepare, addiction counseling is an excellent tool for the friends and family of an addict. A good addiction counselor can help you prepare in the following ways:

  • Helping you understand codependency
  • Helping you establish and enforce healthy boundaries to avoid enabling your girlfriend’s drinking
  • Learning how to communicate your love and support through the conversation
  • Preparing for any possible response, including willingness to seek help immediately

If you must confront your girlfriend on her alcohol abuse, do not begin the conversation without first preparing for it and also seeking outside help.

Help Confronting My Girlfriend about Alcoholism

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